Home⇛Psychology and Education: A Multidisciplinary Journal⇛vol. 24 no. 5 (2024)

In Between Spotlights: The Experience of Ingratiation of Middle Children in the Family

Rica Mae Recto | Vallerie Rose David | Jorge Vincent Gabilagon | Mary Joy Alave

Discipline: Education

 

Abstract:

This study explored and described the experiences of ingratiation of middle children in the family. The findings of the study gained insights from the six residents of Koronadal City who grew up being a middle child in the family. This study utilized qualitative descriptive research design exploring the experiences of the participant. The researchers sought to describe the experiences of ingratiation of middle children in the family as young professionals. Thematic analysis, coding, and categorization of the transcript from the semi-structured interview conducted by the researchers were administered. The result showed that middle children have developed a sense of self-reliance upon themselves instead of being dependent to family support. The thing self-reliance found to be the stepping stone of what they have become today. Furthermore, it was shown in the result that middle children have an innate nature of striving because of their driving force, regardless of their upbringing.



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